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Adult ADD Support Group Previous Notes Page
The topic for this meeting was ADD and Relationships.
Thanks to Ross for the notes.
Meeting Leader Pete Quily
Wednesday,
December 21st, 2004 from 7:00 to 8:30 PM
New Meeting Place:
Raven Song Community Health Centre. It's at 2450 Ontario Street,
Vancouver. 2 blocks west of Main St, and 1/2 a block north
of Broadway. It's about 2 kilometers east of our old location
and 2 block north. It has parking in front, and the 99 B
line stops there as well as the #3 main bus, #9, #8, and
#19. It can fit up to 60 people
Topics and dates of meetings for Jan- June 2005
Vancouver ADD Adult Support Group.
January
26th. Wednesday. All the other days are Tuesdays. Dr. Anthony
Ocana. Family Doctor who has an MSc in Nutrition and a workplace
wellness consulting and speaking company, Healthsmith will
speak on medications for ADD and non pharmaceutical alternatives.
February 22nd. Tuesday. Symptoms of ADD, subtypes of ADD,
where to look for help, different ways of treating ADD.
I.e., therapy, coaching, etc.
March 22nd Dr. Gabor Mate, author of When the Body Says
No. The Costs of Hidden Stress and Scattered Minds. How
Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do
About It, will do a talk about ADD and Stress. Dr. Mate
has ADD and has had regular medical columns in The Vancouver
Sun and the national Globe and Mail. He also teaches a course
on ADD at Langara College's Certificate in ADHD Studies.
Dr. Mate tends to attract large audiences so it is recommended
to come early in order to get in. Arriving on "ADD
Time" may mean missing the talk:)
April 26th Tuesday. ADD and Emotions. How to deal with them
more effectively. Emotional Alchemy.
May 24th Tuesday. ADD and co existing conditions or comorbidities
June 28th Tuesday. Healthy boundaries and ADD. What/who
do you have to say no to in order to say yes to what's important?
How do you do that on a regular basis?
Question to think about.
What I "do" or "be" with a person
with whom I have a good relationship?
Negative habits in relationships.
Interject conversationally
Not being able to read others body language or pitch
of voice.
Procrastination
Don't do lists
Intense body language.
Want to hear everything so end up hearing nothing.
Being overwhelmed
Lacking assertiveness
Defer to others
Not setting boundaries
Putting off, avoiding
Shutting down.
Pickiness regarding expectations
Anger with employees
What one can do differently.
Make lists
Take meds. Helps concentration.
Don't challenge people with your eyes; be more relaxed;
slow deep breaths help to relax. Maintain focus in conversations.
Allow time to think of response
Force self to choose conversations, make self aware
of chosen conversation.
Don't put pressure on self
Delegate
Say, "I'll get back to you later" instead
of impulsively saying "Yes"
Appreciate the efforts of others.
Learn how to utilize skills better so as to make more
responsible choices.
Learn anger management techniques.
Get calm before being critical of children, they absorb
emotions more than words.
Practice what you preach.
Learn to be not so critical of others.
Mind one's own business
Support others by helping them with their problems
Be myself
Listen to other person. Hear what is going on with
him or her.
Share spiritual component
Being honest with others by letting them know of impairment
so one does not have to pretend. Requires less lying and
less energy.
Being honest allows others to be honest.
