In
a Toxic Job ?
Are you in a toxic
job?
Many
people have had one. I did.
(in one degree or another) at one or more periods in their lives,
even if it was for a short time.
A toxic job is a job that is poisonous to either your
physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual health or a combination
of 2 or more
It may only be harmful to one part of your being, two or more
parts, or every part
If
you have a extremely toxic job, it’s easier to escape
because you notice at the beginning. Be thankful!
Be thankful, because it's easier to move on before the discomfort
becomes the comfort of familiarity.
The
toxic job that slowly creeps up on you is insidious.
It gradually wears you down. You make allowances for small
issues; attribute the discomfort to your imagination. It accumulates
in you, poisons you and your life slowly. It's easy to ignore
until it's too late. By the time you notice you may be so
drained of energy, or so accustomed to the comfort of the
big money or benefits; it’s difficult to escape.
You
use all your energy just existing, getting through the day.
You feel trapped and that makes it worse. It's a downward
escalating spiral of despair. You want to escape, and you
know you should, others tell you so as well, but you feel
you can't. You become more negative, there's less joy in your
life, you may become despondent, cynical and/or depressed.
You can escape. Or your can detoxify your job
(and your perspective on your job). Life is too short to work
in a poisonous environment.
Too many people in this world have no passion for
what they do
to make a living. They may not be in a toxic workplace but
they don’t like what they do and find no enjoyment in
it. They labour under the misconception they will never find
a job they love. A job that is truly satisfying at all levels
of their being. Is working for the weekend
Are you willing to accept that you deserve more?
Pete
escaped his toxic job. You can too.
His life has found enormous meaning. Life is more enjoyable,
more vibrant. Pete found a life purpose that lead to a career
he loves. A career that energizes him, allows him to help
other people and excel in.
Some
people are concerned about leaving a job because of fears
of making less money doing a job that they love. But, who
cares if you're making a lot of money if you're miserable?
All the money and material toys in the world won't be enough
to distract you from the emptiness of the hole inside you.
How to escape!
Identify
the toxic situation you are in, and know the costs of not
acting
to get out. Embrace a fresh perspective. Realize you don’t
have to do this alone. Considering hiring someone to help you, perhaps a coach.
There is this myth that if you ask someone for help
that you are weak.
People who think this way are afraid,
afraid of showing any vulnerability. They don't act this way
out of strength; in fact this attitude show's weakness. This
myth is probably more prevalent with men than with women.
(Might explain our earlier death rates:) A strong man is not
afraid to ask for help because he doesn't live his life in
continual fear of having other people judging him.
The
worst thing about a toxic job is that you lose perspective.
Another person may uncover an aspect of your particular situation
that you may not have thought of.
A
coach is trained to work with you to co-create alternate perspectives
and strategies to either detoxify your job (and your perspective
on your job), or to escape the toxic job, and survive and
thrive whatever you choose to do.
Article Links
Emotions
in the workplace PDF
And the important role of toxin handlers
The
tyranny of toxic managers PDF
An emotional intelligence approach to dealing with difficult
personalities PDF
Bosses
From Hell…
And What You Can Learn From Them.
The
Serial Bully
Characteristics of the serial bully and the 4 common subtypes,
The Attention-Seeker, The Wannabe, The Guru, and The Socialised
Psychopath or Sociopath. Extremely detailed article, great
explanations. "The serial bully exhibits behaviours similar
to or congruent with the diagnostic criteria for Antisocial
Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and
Paranoid Personality Disorder."
Warning! Only click
on this link if you have a sense of humour
How
to Stay Stressed
If you want help in dealing with a toxic job, consider contacting Pete for a free sample session of coaching to see if he can help you in your specific situation.
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