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Are you in a toxic job?

Many people have had one.
(in one degree or another) at one or more periods in their lives, even if it was for a short time.

I did.

A toxic job is a job that is poisonous to either your physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual health or a combination of 2 or more

It may only be harmful to one part of your being, two or more parts, or every part

If you have a extremely toxic job, it’s easier to escape

because you notice at the beginning. Be thankful! Be thankful, because it's easier to move on before the discomfort becomes the comfort of familiarity.

The toxic job that slowly creeps up on you is insidious.

It gradually wears you down. You make allowances for small issues; attribute the discomfort to your imagination. It accumulates in you, poisons you and your life slowly. It's easy to ignore until it's too late. By the time you notice you may be so drained of energy, or so accustomed to the comfort of the big money or benefits; it’s difficult to escape.

You use all your energy just existing, getting through the day.

You feel trapped and that makes it worse. It's a downward escalating spiral of despair. You want to escape, and you know you should, others tell you so as well, but you feel you can't. You become more negative, there's less joy in your life, you may become despondent, cynical and/or depressed.

You can escape. Or your can detoxify your job

(and your perspective on your job). Life is too short to work in a poisonous environment.

Too many people in this world have no passion for what they do

to make a living. They may not be in a toxic workplace but they don’t like what they do and find no enjoyment in it. They labour under the misconception they will never find a job they love. A job that is truly satisfying at all levels of their being. Is working for the weekend

Are you willing to accept that you deserve more?

I've escaped my toxic job. You can too.

Life is more enjoyable, more vibrant. I found a life purpose that lead to a career I love. A career that energizes me, allows me to help other people and excel in.

Some people are concerned about leaving a job because of fears

of making less money doing a job that they love. But, who cares if you're making a lot of money if you're miserable? All the money and material toys in the world won't be enough to distract you from the emptiness of the hole inside you.

How to escape!

Identify the toxic situation you are in, and know the costs of not acting

to get out. Don't just wait for things to "magically change". Embrace a fresh perspective. Realize you don’t have to do this alone. If you're clinically depressed, consider getting cognitive behavioral therapy for depression, medications and exercise. If you're not yet depressed, considering hiring a coach to help you get into action.

There is this myth that if you ask someone for help that you are weak.

People who think this way are afraid,

afraid of showing any vulnerability. They don't act this way out of strength; in fact this attitude show's weakness. This myth is probably more prevalent with men than with women. (Might explain our earlier death rates:) A strong man is not afraid to ask for help because he doesn't live his life in continual fear of having other people judging him.

Remember pretend war hero's John Wayne and Sylvester Stallone both refused to join the military during wars.

The worst thing about a toxic job is that you lose perspective.

Another person may uncover an aspect of your particular situation that you may not have thought of.

A coach is trained to work with you to co-create alternate perspectives

and strategies to either detoxify your job (and your perspective on your job), or to escape the toxic job, and survive and thrive whatever you choose to do.

Article Links

Emotions in the workplace PDF

And the important role of toxin handlers

The tyranny of toxic managers PDF

An emotional intelligence approach to dealing with difficult personalities PDF

Bosses From Hell

And What You Can Learn From Them.

The Serial Bully

Characteristics of the serial bully and the 4 common subtypes, The Attention-Seeker, The Wannabe, The Guru, and The Socialised Psychopath or Sociopath. Extremely detailed article, great explanations. "The serial bully exhibits behaviours similar to or congruent with the diagnostic criteria for Antisocial Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and Paranoid Personality Disorder."

Warning! Only click on this link if you have a sense of humour

How to Stay Stressed

If you want help in dealing with a toxic job, consider contacting Pete to see if he can help you in your specific situation.


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